Your wedding forget-me-not checklist!
A couple weeks ago, a client asked me how many weddings I have photographed (which is a great and very important question to ask your photographer along with THESE). And I had no idea. I couldn’t recall exactly how many I had photographed, but my answer was “over 20” and as it turns out, the correct answer is …
“I have photographed 32 weddings since my career as a began as a wedding photographer.”
I counted twice because I was pretty shocked. Granted not all of those weddings were paid (I interned with a Boston wedding photographer for 6 months during my last semester in college), and I do a bit of second shooting (which I love to do). But still. 32 weddings is a lot of wedding to have experienced, so I was thinking that I’d write a post about how much I learned in 32 weddings. But then I thought, that doesn’t help my brides, and I was put on this earth to be a recourse for brides.
So today, I am sharing some of the most common things I have seen couples forget on their wedding day. If you don’t have time to read through this whole post, check out for the downloadable wedding checklist of things you shouldn’t forget for the big day!
Toiletries! Yup, I can’t even begin to count the amount of times I have heard a bride say “I forgot deodorant.” Don’t worry ERP brides - I keep some in my emergency box in my car. Other common toiletries that are forgotten are a toothbrush and toothpaste, lotion and contact solution. I would pack all of your toiletries a couple nights before the wedding, because chances are, you might not be thinking about deodorant at the rehearsal dinner, or when you’re getting ready to go to the bridal suite.
Wedding essentials. This is pretty broad, because I’ve seen everything from the groom forgetting his vows at home, to the bride forgetting to grab their marriage license. If you know me, you know that I am the queen of making lists, but MAKE A LIST. Put your list on your phone and share it with your maid of honor, groom and the best man and make certain people are responsible for certain things on the list. Have your MOH or the groom go through the list with you as you pack things up - again, I would do this the night before the rehearsal dinner. And make note of where you packed what items / who is in charge of what wedding day essentials.
Wedding details: bridal edition. This is also pretty broad, but this includes things like: something borrowed/blue, the rings, the wedding invitation suite, the veil, etc. If you have me as your wedding photographer, you will get a detailed list of all the things that you and your maid of honor need to pack the night before your wedding so that when I show up to the bridal suite you don’t have to run around looking for all the details you want me to photograph from your wedding.
Wedding details: groom edition. Luckily there aren’t as many details for the groom to remember, but the two most common things a groom forgets on his wedding day are to put on his boutonniere before the photos (if you are one of my grooms, the 10-15 minutes it takes to put on all the boutonnieres is scheduled into your timeline, so it doesn’t get missed) and cufflinks. I once had a groom show up who didn’t even know he needed cufflinks. So make sure that you talk to Men’s Warehouse (or wherever you end up getting your suit from) to confirm if you need them or not.
The most important detail so many couples forget on their wedding day…..
This wedding day is YOUR day. Brides— it doesn’t matter if you’re running late because you hated your lip color and wanted it redone. The wedding isn’t going to start without the bride and groom. Take a minute to slow down and breathe in your day. Have a glass of champagne with your maids, groom— have a toast with your groomsmen. Hug your parents. Get the picture with your college friends or your aunt or your dog sitter. EAT SOMETHING. Drink water. Enjoy your new spouse. Dance. Talk to your cousins. Do whatever *you* want to do, just don’t forget that your wedding day is about celebrating the love you have for each other. The majority of my bride say to me “I can’t believe how fast the day went.” I know ladies. I KNOW. Soak up every second of the day because it’ll be over before you know it.